There’s no doubt that any activity–no matter how risky or low-key it is–has two sides to it. The fearless person probably doesn’t think twice about engaging in risky activities and they probably don’t give low-key activities a second thought. The timid person, on the other hand, finds it easy to make up umpteen excuses to get out of participating in even the most innocuous activities.
No matter how many great strengths the timid person has, if their life is built on safety, they may get left behind and lost in the shuffle. It’s their choice, but playing it safe may lead them to miss out on much of what life has to offer. Moreso, they risk being seen as boring cowards and maybe even party poopers.
No one usually wants to be seen as a coward, so it’s worth investigating ways to break through your fears.
So just how do you become more fearless? How do you become more gallant, brave, and daring?
If you’re the timid person in this scenario, these tips below might help you break through some of your long-held fears.
First, you’ll need to do some work on your internal dialogue. That is, you’ll need to put your feelings in check. Unfounded fears–the kind that holds you back–live in the grey areas of your thoughts. They tell you to caution is comfortable and familiarity is easier. These grey little thought-monsters tell you to take the easy route, play it safe, and stay close to your cave, should you need to retreat quickly.
When you do step out, if not put in check, these grey thought-monsters will tell you what you’re doing isn’t fun. They tempt you to escape and resist taking further action. They’ll tell you, “Don’t ever do this again.”
The problem with these little grey thought-creatures is their messages are often unsubstantiated. They are convincing to those who like the safety of the cocoon. The downside of buying into them is, if you never risk, you’ll never know you can succeed. If you stay safe, you’ll never know the pleasure new activities can bring. If you never take action, you’ll be susceptible to a boring life.
Unfounded fears are self-limiting and can even be debilitating. It might take a forklift truck to lift you out of your doubt and fear, but by taking a few well-chosen steps, might help you burst through your fears to a more enjoyable life.
To move forward and enlarge your life, take one well-thought-out innovative step after another.
Here are a few suggestions:
These ten steps are great preparation for breaking down fears into doable steps. Fear is tricky. If you let it, it can paralyse you. Instead, learn to recognise it, and put strategies like these in place to tackle it. When you do you’ll be sure to become a more adventurous and interesting individual.